The Truth About Homeschool


The truth about homeschooling is that it sucks.


Everything you think when you think about homeschooling – crying, yelling at each other, not knowing what to do, being with your kids ALL day – that all happens. It’s not always fun. It’s only sometimes fun. It’s time consuming. It’s hard.

The truth about homeschooling is that it’s great.

All the great things you think about homeschooling – being with your kids, teaching them your values, helping them learn at their own pace, nurturing their interests, being on your own schedule – all of that happens. They learn quickly. When a topic is mastered, you can move on. You become closer as a family.

The truth about homeschooling is that it sucks AND it’s great. It’s like chocolate. Chocolate is so good. So. Very. Darn. Good. BUT if you have to much, that darn sugar will make you fat and mess with your head.

Yep…homeschool, like Forrest Gump said, is a lot like a box of chocolates.

 

 

You never know what your day will be like.

This is not a post to debate homeschool versus public school.
{If you want a debate and facts and all of that go  here and here. OH! And especially here...this one is great!}

There are a lot of reasons people homeschool their children. There are a lot of reasons people don’t homeschool their children. Homeschool is not for every family and not every child would do well if they were homeschooled. Public or private school is the same way: not for every family and not for every child.

I just know people ask me all the time about homeschool. ALL THE TIME.  How do you have the patience? How do you know what to teach? Don’t you get tired of being with your kids 24/7? Are you crazy? How do I get started?

The truth is that I’m not patient. At all. I’m not even impatient – I’m anti-patient. I just don’t have that gene.

The truth is that I don’t know what to teach. I find guidelines for each grade for each child, find lessons on the stuff they don’t know, teach it, and move on. I may teach the same thing 4 different ways. Once they understand, we build on that and keep going.

The truth is that I get very tired of my kids. In fact, I’m tired of them now. I made them go to bed, not because they were tired, but because I was. It’s 5 p.m. (Not really, but…you get my point.)

The truth is that yes, I am, in fact, crazy. I’m with my kids all day long. I work from home. I still have to cook, clean, and do all the rest. I’m sleep deprived. I’m extremely busy. I run on caffeine and wine. Yes, I’m crazy. 

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The truth is that all you have to do to get started is decide that you want to start. There are a ton of resources out there.  You can start by looking at this page I made. 

The truth is that: 

  • I’m not on anyone else’s schedule.
  • If I want a snow day, I take one.
  • My school lunches are fabulous.
  • The pay stinks – even less than a public school teacher.
  • My house will never be spotless, because we are in it all day long.
  • Everyone has an opinion about it.
  • We do sometimes stay in our pajamas.

Do I ever feel like crying? Yep.
Do I question my sanity? Daily.
Do I want to stop homeschooling? Nope.

The truth is that even if my kids went to public school, I’d still be helping them with their homework, volunteering in the classroom, and finding a way to help at the school. My life would be revolve around drop-offs and pick-ups and Spring Breaks and winter breaks and summers.

There would be even more friend drama, tired kids who spend all day in school only to have to keep going for their extracurricular activities, and money spent all the time for various things at school.

The truth is that I don’t want my life to be like that. If I’m going to help them learn and rearrange my day to insert myself into where they are, I think I’m better off just keeping them with me. That is my family’s decision and it works for us. I’m not at all saying that it would or should work for you.

Yes, it’s hard, but it’s all hard. I just traded one kind of hard for another. Homeschool is not an escape from the reality of life, and public school is not about dropping off your kids and hoping they learn what they need to learn.  Both involve sacrifice. Both require discipline. Both require you to do things at certain times and make sure you get your kids where they need to be.

The truth is that every decision I make concerning my kids is hard. There’s always a trade off involved. Always.

The truth is that there is no right way to homeschool. There are a million different ways to do it. You can try them all. {Here’s a list!}

The truth is that if you decide to homeschool, you will be judged. Homeschooling will not define you in anyway, it’s just part of your day, but you will be labeled “the homeschooler”. People will roll their eyes at you when you tell them. People will question you. People will flat out tell you that you’re wrong. It’s really a weird thing.

I mean, I don’t give a crap where your kids go to school. It doesn’t matter to me at all.

I love this: 

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The truth is that I don’t know if I’m doing this right. The truth is that you probably don’t either.

All I know is that I like my life this way. I don’t plan on changing it anytime soon. My kids are happy, smart, and have perfectly fine social skills, thank you very much.

It’s really not a big deal. We homeschool. So what?

Gotta go…they are touching each other and yelling something about prepositional phrases…

That’s the truth.

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  1. Katharine

    “The truth is that even if my kids went to public school, I’d still be helping them with their homework, volunteering in the classroom, and finding a way to help at the school. My life would be revolve around drop-offs and pick-ups and Spring Breaks and winter breaks and summers.” — THAT! EXACTLY! That is exactly why we began homeschooling back in ’83. That, and the small fact that the “studious one” hated school and the “party-er” was hated BY the school. And no one was learning anything except how to sneak off campus and buy Skoal. At age 8.
    AFTER we brought them home, we learned the other reason, the reason we never dreamed: They were nervous. Who’d have thought? The change that came over them after about two weeks of learning at home was the clincher. We never looked back. It was great. A quarter century of raising my own kids, myself, was just a wonderful sort of “hoot” and I’ve not one single regret, except that they ever were in the ps system in the first place. 🙂 Thanks for this! 🙂

    • Jen Adair

      Thanks for that! Sometimes I question my decision for a split second, and then I realize that I truly love my life like this. Props to you for doing what was right for your family – I know that it is a hard decision!

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